23/100 Happy days

Today was a really tough day, but the highlight was working with a few children who for one reason or another were not rehearsing for their school play. 
Under construction: one grandfather clock for Cinderella.

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I enjoyed five minutes of sun in the garden when I got in, had a little mow of my little lawn and then made my own rainbow as I watered my poor little plants.
22/100

A couple of weeks ago I did a quick pastel sketch to make a cover for a class book for a class I was teaching. I went back to that school yesterday to find the year group had used it as a basis for their first art lesson of the year. Happy children, happy me!
21/100

My little boy is back from camp.
(Download is like scout camp, right?)
20/100














I defy anyone to find a town with prettier roundabouts than Hemel, enjoying the simple things
19/100

 
 

My photobook arrived today (of our holiday in Italy last year). It's been lovely looking back. 18/100

17/100 Happy Days

Another sunny day in beautiful Hemel Hempstead

16/100 Happy Days

I completed my tax return and have nothing to pay (well, a pound, which they will take by PAYE).
The deadline isn't until the end of January 2015, so I am ahead of the game for once.

15/100 happy days

Another lovely day. Part of my literacy lesson outside because it was wrong to be inside, and an early evening spontaneous walk with a friend.

14/100 Happy Days

How sweet is this? I only taught this little girl for one afternoon - imagine the love her regular teacher gets! 
(The handle on the back of the card is because they are learning about castles and making shields)

13/100 Happy Days

Sometimes it's the most simple things that give you satisfaction. Like pulling up a dandelion and all its root.

12/100 Happy Days

It's not every day you get an imaginary football team named after you (or technically, your husband does) in a graphic novel about youth football and the world cup in Brasil.

11/100 Happy Days

I must admit to fussing about an impending storm this morning, but as it turned out, I couldn't have had better weather for my photography walk this afternoon.
I am happy with a few of my photos, I learned a couple of things about my camera and met some lovely people.
Thank you Woodland Trust, Natural History Museum at Tring, Millican and Tring Brewery for organising this as part of
A Shot in the Park
#100happydays 11/100

10/100 Happy Days

This term I have started supply teaching. I cannot express how wonderful it is to get to the weekend and have THIS much planning and preparation and assessment to do for next week!

9/100 Happy Days

 I had half an hour in the breezy sunshine on the common to sit and relax, it was bliss!

8/100 Happy days

There's nothing like starting a new book, even if I'm not the target audience.
This book is the third novel and first graphic novel by Dave Cousins, I would almost certainly not pick up a book like this if the author wasn't a friend - but he is, and I am looking forward to reading it.

7/100 Happy days

I saved some of a macaroni bake my daughter had made for tea and out it in the fridge for my lunch. In the morning I took it out of the fridge and out it on the counter top... and left it there. When I got to the staffroom fridge and opened my bag to take out my lunch, it wasn't there!
The school secretary took pity on me and sorted me out with a school lunch, and here it is.

6/100 happy days

This month old gosling had a lovely shake just as I pressed the shutter. It might look odd but he was full of life!

5/100 Happy days

#100happydays 5/100
Another flower today - this time it is because the fields and canal paths near me are full of the scent of elderflower. It reminds me of my childhood and the elderflower champagne my mum made in buckets which filled the kitchen floor... and now some clever friends also do!

4/100 happy days

#100happydays 
Simple things today, this is a rose my sister Helen gave me for my birthday about 5 years ago. It was bright orange then, I'm not sure what's happened this year. It always starts to flower a couple of weeks before my birthday and makes me smile.

3/100 Happy Days

A bonus dance session even though it is half term. Lovely to get together with these dance friends who I don't see very often these days - and lovely to dance too, of course.

I've posted the pic despite my amazingly huge hair - I blame the weather.

2/100 Happy Days

It's half term, I am a teacher and yesterday I got together with my friends who also work in schools.
How lovely to have time out to bake and relax with friends while putting the world to rights.
Here are my triple chocolate brownies. Happy days indeed.

1/100 happy days

Yesterday I had arranged to meet Leanne, an ex-colleague, for a coffee, it was so lovely chatting non-stop and catching up. 
But I hadn't planned to bump into an ex-colleague for a quick chat and I hadn't planned to call in at another friend I hadn't seen for a while, but I did - and we had a few adventures, ending up in Shepherds Bush Empire.... I'm still singing House Martins and Beautiful South songs this morning.
AND I got bonus cygnet photos in the park.

Hypocrisy

Seek for congruence in your words and deeds.
Can you be happy amd at peace with yourself and others if there is a tug of war between your image of yourself (what you tell yourself and others), and the proof of yourself, your values and beliefs, in your actions?

I hate it when I realise I have been hypocritical, and I take steps to sort it out.
It bothers me when others are.
It really annoys me when they don't see it in themselves even when challenged. (I should work on this!)
There should be no difference in the rules for one person than another.

Let someone go first

Yesterday I was heading for a doorway, saw someone coming and stood back. The other person however ushered me through. I looked back for my son who was letting them in before he came out.
However trivial this sounds we all had smiles on our faces. A small moment of shared kindness and friendliness was a small oasis in a busy day.

Happiness

I want to share this a Tweet with you: "GreatestQuotes: "I began learning long ago that those who are happiest are those who do the most for others." - Booker T. Washington" --http://twitter.com/GreatestQuotes/status/189730171572592640

I shall keep going with this kindness lark!

Kindness, Love and Monopoly

During the Easter weekend I played monopoly with my 2 younger children. Not my first choice of game as I remember,  but my children seem to forget, the inevitable rollercoaster of emotion and dispute.
100 Mitzvahs suggested this morning that playing a game, especially one you don't like, is a kindness - I'll add it my list then!

Again, I find myself reflecting on what kindness is. These kinds of kind acts are surely what we SHOULD be doing.



It seemed unnecessary to blog that I had had some fun with my children (they love the experience of extremes of emotion, it must be cathartic).

Kindness is not usually a conscious goal but a general state of being, looking after other people's happiness and needs as well as your own.
Blogging these things reminds me that acts of kindness are a constant expression of the love in our lives we share with the world.

Collect supermarket vouchers for schools

Even if you don't have children at school you must know someone who has school aged children - or at least live near a school.
When you are asked at the checkout "are you collecting vouchers?", please say yes!
I have children at secondary school but also have links my local primary. At church this morning I gave a pile of vouchers to two young brothers - they were delighted. Each class is in competition to bring in the most.
The vouchers school gather really do make a difference to the amount of sports equipment they can buy - please say "yes" too!

The school will be happy, the children you give the vouchers to will be happy and I'm sure Sainsbury's will be delighted to give away as much stuff as possible!

Link to Sainsburys Active Kids

Thank goodness for wifi

I've been laid up with pleurisy. Its hard to go out in the world and practice acts of kindness on strangers whilst in bed!
So with my smart phone I found some local news and a saw a friends son was achieving great things and I sent my congratulations.

Spread some holiday cheer

Due to illness our Easter visitors didn't come. What to do with all the eggs I bought for them?
I have three children, they could easily manage another egg or two each but it seemed wrong. We bought the eggs to give away.
So my Good Friday RAK / mitzvah was to arrange for friends to pass them to our local drug and alcohol rehab residential centre.

Let someone out in traffic

Yesterday I did quite a few little trips around town and let out people waiting at side roads  whenever I could. It's so easy, so quick and makes no difference to my total journey time - but could make quite a difference to theirs.

And you may even get a smile in return!

Wednesday

Wednesday is always a strange day in the week - it's so far from a weekend isn't it!
This week even more so for me as I missed last weekend as I had five very intensive days on campus from Friday til yesterday. I, like my fellow students, am shattered. My children have been lovely and for three days each cooked tea for the family, for which I am very grateful indeed.

Wednesday - it's not only a long way from the weekends but today is cold, wet and windy. There are muddy puddles everywhere. The poor car drivers seem unable to avoid them as the huge brown waves break over us poor pedestrians.

So where is the kindness today?
Well, yesterday I made a point of complimenting the sandwich guy in his lovely falafel. (Now that sounds a bit more weird than it did in my head!)
Today... I think this counts: I made small talk with the exam invigilator who has the most boring job in the world. I took three skills tests today and in between we had some nice chats. I hope that made his day a bit more interesting - in turn I did feel less nervous, but he definitely was desperate to talk to someone!
It's time to change how we think about Wednesdays - after lunchtime the weekend is getting closer isn't it!

Here's a little something to make you smile...



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Make other people feel good about themselves

Making people feel good about themselves is an act of kindness - a mitzvah.
This can be achieved in many ways, some are deliberate, others may be accidental - and could be nurtured if you recognise them.
Let someone help you - asking someone's advice; accepting help - it's not a sign of weakness, it's not dis-empowering - it can be simply sharing a skill or piece of information.
If you feel uncomfortable accepting help, think about the intention behind the offer, maybe you should consider your own motivations.
When you help someone are you exercising power over them? does it make you feel superior?

Compliment someone - if they have made an interesting contribution to a a class discussion or workshop, tell them. If they look particularly good one day, tell them.


Notice the quiet person - If someone is working away in the background - take time to notice what they do and thank them.

Tell someone they have inspired and influenced you - don't keep this information to yourself!

Talk about someone behind their back! Tell a mutual friend, acquaintance or colleague about something good someone else has done - it may may filter back to them - or even their boss.


I've done all of these since my last post - some deliberately, some I realised upon reflection.
Sometimes I think I make people feel good about themselves just by being ridiculous myself and in comparison they know they are better than me!

Feed the birds

As suggested by St Alban's Diocese: 'Live the challenge'

Feed the birds, treasure God's creation.
As you feed the birds watch them and take time to wonder at the beauty of what is around us. The more we wonder and appreciate the wonder of what is around us, the more we will take care of it - and enrich our own lives.

Congratulations!

When someone does well, or has some good news, congratulate them!
Don't take it as read that you are happy for them or that you are proud.

• Two of my children took part in Rock Challenge (http://www.rockchallenge.co.uk/) I encouraged them because it is great organisation and convinced them they would only have a drama role and wouldn't have to dance. However it transpired that they did have to dance - and both stuck with it and did really well. I didn't think I'd ever see my son dance - and dance well. What a lovely moment and what a great revelation to all of us! I'm so proud of both of them for stretching themselves and being open to trying new things.

• My friend is getting married - hurrah! and has invited me - Hurrah! Congratulations were sent!
• And a new friend, a fellow student, has just got an 'outstanding distinction' for her assignment. It puts my 'very good' in the shade somewhat(!) but I am genuinely really, really happy for her. Congratulations were sent!

Lenten Mitzvahs

Does this concept work? Or is it #that-awkward-moment-when-two-religions-meet?

Many people see Lent as purely a time of giving things up. Jesus went to the desert for 40 days for a period of reflection, contemplation and meditation prior to taking up his ministry. During this time he was also tempted by the devil.
For Christians giving things up in Lent is part of a bigger goal of preparation for Easter and is an opportunity to overcome faults, exercise self discipline and spend more time doing religious acts.
A real season for Christians to think 'WWJD'. I shall bear this in mind as I try and cope with my Lenten Facebook fast.

How are my daily mitzvahs going?

I visited my old workplace today as part of my course and was lucky enough to observe 5 lessons as well as see school life from the perspective of a year 7 - I've been able to 'magpie' a couple of lesson ideas - and thanked the teachers for allowing me to observe them.

I also gave a little 'I miss you present' to a member of the support staff.

At the end of the day some of the girls found a frog outside the PE department and I organised some year 13 boys to move it to a safer place - I did have to reassure them that it wouldn't bite them first!
So you say that was two kindnesses in one. The frog was protected and these hulking young men have found there is no reason to be afraid of a frog!

Share opportunities

I am a student teacher, today I went to a school's open morning as part of the application process. I told another student on my course about the vacancy and gave her a lift to the open morning as she doesn't drive.
Some people may question my sanity, but I firmly believe that the school know who they are looking for and it's up to them to choose between us - and the other candidates, not me.
We both loved the school, so two application forms are about to be written. I'll draw the line at helping her with her form though!

Kindness begets Kindness

I am encouraging my Sunday School group to do a random act of kindness every day in Lent.

This is my kindness to them - they will feel for themselves the kindness they deliver to others.

When in London...

On Saturday I went to a workshop in London - loads of potential for mitzvahs and random acts of kindness here!
Here are some examples -
Giving directions, in this case, it was to McDonalds when I was in Trafalgar Square, no accounting for taste!
Taking photos for tourists. If you see a couple taking photos offer to take a photo with both in it.
Offering a seat on the train or bus.
Buying an extra item of food for a homeless person (depending on your budget this could be a packet of crisps, a chocolate bar, a sandwich or a whole meal)

In a workshop or seminar freely share your ideas and encourage others.
Give honest feedback to the presenters, and thank them.

Random acts of kindness week

I've been encouraging people on facebook to join in. So far...Monday: give a smile, get a smile. Tuesday: tell someone you care about why they are important to you. Wednesday: forgive someone.
And I've been following my advice :-)
I've also spent time with, or talking on the phone to, friends who needed a friend / sounding board.

Thinking of others

It's like being a brownie again, doing a good turn every day.

I took my son to the airport, and eben woke him up when he slept through his alarm - the deal was I would take him but he was responsible for dragging me out of bed at 5am.

My dad had a heart procedure yesterday following surgery in the summer. My friend's mum has had similar surgery and I msg her with words of encouragement (- but not enough.)

A week of mini mitzvahs

Monday, I took in a parcel for a neighbour.
Tuesday, I helped a supply teacher with her class
Wednesday, I told my neighbour about the parcel(!), and gave away another money off voucher.
Thursday, I wrote to a head teacher in praise of a group of his pupils and two teachers, I saw at an event outside of school.
Friday, I made brownies and flapjacks to share at a training day - and ran to the shops for supplies.
Today I will walk through the sub zero temperatures to collect a parcel for my daughter from the PO - I'll take my camera in the hope it will be a pretty walk.

A mitzvah catch up!

I've been really busy but here are some little things I've been doing along the way:
I've been offering lifts, sharing job alerts with potential 'competition', offering a shoulder to cry on, saying thank you with chocolates, giving a free haircut (not sure anyone would pay me, did save the cost of one at a salon), emptied the dishwasher - AGAIN! and I got my friend's book in the school library.
... that's it for now!

Ice cream or cup cakes?

Ice cream or cupcakes?

Follow the link to see the simple culinary wonder of cupcakes in the guise of little ice creams.
Today's mitzvah is to share this wonder with you!

Helping someone you don't know

I was asked to talk to someone who is considering a change of career about my experiences on the PGCE.
We spoke for nearly half an hour and she was pleased to have the opportunity to discuss a whole set of questions.
It was good for me too, in the midst of assignment writing, to remind myself why I am doing this!

Thank you!

I've had a lot of support and advice from people in the last few days as I have been wrestling with and assignment, my family, my children, friends of friends, ex-work colleagues, peers... it's like an Oscar's acceptance speech.
I have thanked everyone along the way - I am truely grateful to all of them.

Welcome a new neighbour

Today my mitzvah was to knock on the door of a new neighbour and just say hello. The new neighbours are lovely and it was a pleasure to meet them. They were pleased to have a visitor too. Win win!

Time flies

I've been so busy this week, barely come up for air, but in the middle of all that I've been keeping mitzvahs in my awareness and many very small acts of gratitude, and cheery smiles have been meted out!

Praise where praise is due

Today I had to review my mentor's performance during my school placement. It's been a tough few weeks and I haven't found it easy. My mentor has from day one told it like it is. She has been completely fair in her assessment of me (not easy to do!) and has tried hard to make sure that I have been able to do what I needed to do.
What more could she do? especially on top of all her other work. So I gave her practically 'top marks' - and told her why.
I have never been made to feel in the way - when I know I must have been, just by being there interrupting her routine. In fact I have felt very welcome and at home in her class and for that I am grateful.

Martin Luther king Day, 16th January 2012

“Those not looking for happiness are most likely to find it...those searching forget that happy is to seek happiness for others.” -MLK Jr.

Today's mitzvah - taking time out for someone else

This morning I made sure I had time for a proper conversation two men from the drug and alcohol rehabilitation centre who came to my church this morning.
They are lovely men and I benefited from the chat, which was about photography as it turns out it is something one of them is quite knowledgeable about.
So, I wonder if it was a mitvah after all?

Maybe doing the sunday school class when I am feeling swamped with studies counts!

Yesterday's mitzvah - help promote a friend

 Yesterday I went to my local Waterstone's bookshop to ask if they had my friend's book on their shelf. They don't yet and the man said he would chase it up and got straight on the phone to the publishers :-)
Dave has been in himself, obviously, but every little helps.
And it gave me a reason to call my friend Jane (Mrs Dave).

Pay it forward

This morning I got a voucher for £3.05 off my next shop (part of a brand price match promotion) - I gave to someone on his way into the shop. It took him a moment or two to understand that it was a simple no strings attached offer.



He was thankful, and I was happy.

Mitzvahs are easy and cheer me up when I'm stressed!

I feel as if I am sinking under my studies and uncertainties over how well I am fulfilling my requirements... I took two minutes out yesterday to tell the facebook world that my friend's first book is published, printed and in the shops (also available on Amazon: Fifteen Days Without a Head, by Dave Cousins)
Today the happiest of news reached me of an engagement between two of the loveliest people. All I did was send congratulations with a true message of how lovely they are and I'm told I'm kind. Well It was my pleasure!

Sharing

Today I passed on details of services that I knew about to people who I know would benefit of be interested in.

Thank you!

Today I made sure I thanked everyone for things they did for me. Lots of very small acknowledgements of what other people have done for me, sometimes without thinking about it themselves.